No doubt, your life has changed radically in recent weeks. We’re all being forced to adapt to the far reaching consequences of the global pandemic. If you’re fortunate enough to stay healthy, you’re left to cope with your usual routine, outlets and plans being tossed out the window. The effects of Covid-19 are far reaching and there are many new stressors being introduced, no matter who you are:
- Students of all ages are being educated at home rather than on school campuses, isolated from peers.
- Single adults may feel lonely, sequestered without a household of family to keep them company.
- Couples may feel relationship problems surfacing under the pressure of constant contact as they work from home.
- Parents are adjusting to relentless full-time child care.
- Elders are facing loneliness—as their social network is forced to keep a distance.
- People sick with the virus are not allowed the healing comfort of loving visitors.
- Healthcare and other workers may be knowingly putting themselves at risk of exposure.
- Many have lost jobs or fear losing them in a time of economic uncertainty.
- The news is feeding a climate of fear.
If you’re affected by a situation like this, or any other related to the current state of affairs, it’s a great idea to seek help. Can you sneak to a corner of your home for a confidential conversation that allows you to really explore how this is affecting you and learn ways to cope? Many of our usual sources of self-care have been cut off. Remote therapy sessions are one way you can still take care of yourself. You may experience grief, worry, fear, sadness and confusion mixed with glimmers of optimism, humor, love and hope. In unpredictable times, it’s wise to have professional support you can depend on, through all the ups and downs.
Who are you at your core? If you’re not sure, it’s time to anchor with your inner truth. Getting what you want out of life begins with knowing what you want. Knowing what you want begins with knowing who you are. Societal expectations, the influence of well-meaning family and friends, the eclipse of romantic relationships, and work pressures can all distort your clarity. Faith will help you get past all the external noise to hear the quiet voice within.
One-on-one sessions are a perfect forum for personal breakthroughs.
Sometimes the effects of past experiences, like childhood wounds, romantic break-ups or traumatic memories, continue to influence how you feel in the present. When this is the case, it makes sense to address those issues, heal those hurts, and resolve those feelings so they don’t continue to affect you in the future. Faith can help you clear those obstacles, and when indicated, administer an EMDR.
Other times, it’s not productive to delve deeply into the past. What’s needed is attention to the present and/or immediate future. Maybe you’re going through a rough patch at work or in your relationship. Perhaps you need a little parenting coaching or find yourself in a stage of life transition. Regardless of what brings you in, Faith orients towards your goals and honors your preferences throughout the process. If you feel like you just need a tune-up, you may be right. Even the healthiest, heartiest, most high-functioning of humans can benefit from the gift of therapy. Faith will meet you where you are, wherever that may be.
It’s almost inevitable that a relationship will run into a rough patch, if not several. Why? Because each individual is not only a highly complex human being with infinite depth, they’re also constantly growing and changing. When two or more individuals come together, partners have to adapt to the evolving other, which continuously shifts how things work as a whole. Sometimes partners grow at different times, at different paces, or in totally different directions. With time and understanding, mutual growth often leads to an even better relationship. Although no outcome is expected or guaranteed, anything is possible.
Faith’s approach to healthy relationships involves an idea she calls Authentic Autonomy. This term refers to each individual’s ability to know themselves, take responsibility for their own fulfillment, and live in alignment with their inner truth, even in the context of the relationship. This removes the notion that the other is responsible for one’s happiness, while adding a healthy measure of freedom, flexibility, and respect.
Faith offers a non-judgmental, open-minded, respectful approach to therapy. All love styles are welcome, at every stage of the relationship. If you’re looking for a creative solution, Faith may be the right therapist for you.
The pressures faced by our youth today are formidable. As expectations mount in high school and college, young adults need and deserve plenty of support. Sometimes, adolescents and 20-somethings don’t feel comfortable opening up to family members about the challenges they face. Even when they do, well-meaning parents might not have the relationship, time or expertise to appropriately address their unique concerns. An attuned therapist can be an indispensable asset to the well-being of a young adult.
If you’re a high school student, stressed by keeping grades up, adapting socially, juggling extracurricular activities and navigating college applications, no wonder you feel overwhelmed! Wouldn’t it be good to have someone to talk to confidentially, as well as some coping skills to reduce anxiety, so you can still enjoy these sweet years? Or perhaps you’re a parent who doesn’t know when to push and when to back off. Either way, are you finding yourself wondering, “Is this normal?” Faith is skilled at working with young adults and/or parents and may offer the relief you seek. Conveniently located across from Burlingame High, close to many Bay Area schools, help is nearby.
Ever heard it said, “Men don’t like to talk about their feelings?” Well, just in case there’s some truth to it, it’s good to know there’s a therapist interested in putting you at ease, to the extent that you might begin to enjoy it. Many of Faith’s male clients have expressed relief that the process of psychotherapy feels surprisingly good.
Maybe it’s not in your nature to ask for help. Or maybe you’re so busy managing someone else’s emotions that you’ve lost touch with your own. If you’re asking yourself, “Who has time for this shit, anyway?” you’re probably so consumed with all that’s expected of you, you can’t fathom adding another thing. Given the pressures that today’s men face, the reluctance to crowd an already busy schedule is understandable. However, taking some time for yourself can improve your performance, enhance your relationships, and make you feel good. Faith offers a safe, confidential space to address your concerns, so you can be free of internal obstacles that might be holding you back.
When indicated, Faith may administer an EMDR with clients for whom it’s well suited. EMDR stands for Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing, although the process does not hinge on eye movement as it did in the early stages of development. Research shows that bilateral stimulation is really the key to its effectiveness, which can also be done with sound and touch. The common, more comfortable approach,often utilized today, that Faith employs involves hearing alternating tones through headphones while small sensors, held in each hand, vibrate alternately.
EMDR is unique because both sides of the brain are active during treatment, which often creates impressive results. Research on this technique makes EMDR a sought-after therapeutic tool. Proven effective in healing traumas of all types and degrees of intensity as well as phobias, anxiety, and persistent triggers, EMDR is an efficient treatment that can really affect change. Faith is a certified EMDR clinician with years of experience and positive outcomes.
The Enneagram is an ancient personality typing system that dates back many centuries. In the therapeutic setting, it helps clients to know and understand themselves and others. Although no one can really be summed up by a category, it’s surprisingly helpful to consider how you tend to view the world in relation to others. In response to the common objection that people can’t be put into neat boxes, Enneagram expert, David Daniels points out, “You have to know what box you’re in before you can get out of it.” If we’re willing to consider how our dominant type influences our experience of life and habitual responses, we can expand beyond our patterns and access new ways of being.
Although everyone contains the attributes of all nine types on the Enneagram, we each tend to lead with a particular motivation and perspective. Taking a quiz or studying the nine types may enable you to determine which one best describes you. Faith can help you determine your Enneagram Type(s) and use this information to help you in many areas of your life; personal growth, relationships, career, parenting, and inner peace.
For a quick glimpse at the Enneagram types, ask yourself what most motivates you? Is it: doing the right thing (Type 1), helping others (Type 2), achieving and performing (Type 3), being unique and special (Type 4), accumulating knowledge (Type 5), being safe and loyal (Type 6), having fun and adventure (Type 7), being in charge (Type 8), or keeping the peace? (Type 9). For more, recommended resources include The Essential Enneagram, which contains an easy paragraph test, by David Daniels, M.D. and Virginia Price, PH.D, the work of Helen Palmer, including her audio book, Enneagram and EnnagramInstitute.com, where you can access a comprehensive online RHETI test to discover your dominant type.